Moving on

Moving on is an interesting word. 

How would you consider you have already moved on when after a break up. 

If you are seeing someone new, does it mean that you already move on and stop caring about your previous partner? 

Have you tried that you are already seeing someone , but then you feel like you couldn't move on from the past. You constantly afraid that the same thing will happen again , and you think of every moment you once had and keep comparing with now and future. 

So the problem here is how do you know when you completely move on , or just a person can never completely move on from the past, is always a part of them that will remember forever? 

I get stuck constantly from the past and always keep remembering about the memories I had that makes me happy instead of creating new happy memories. 

I couldn't find the way of moving on. Till today, I was told that moving on was not depending on how others help you to move on, but it all depends on yourself because is important that you are happy with your life now so that you will feel comfortable to move on. Besides that, I need to put myself in the first place , think less about how others think about me so I will be able to move on despite people will be judging me as selfish. 

After all, the most important thing is I must be happy with what i do , and do what makes me happy. I couldn't keep feeling guilty of moving on first and leave one behind, and I couldn't keep thinking of helping him to move on because it was my decision that caused him to be in the situation like this. 

All the unhealthy thoughts I have is what caused me couldn't move on, and I need to start thinking " I deserve better than just keep myself in the past, I deserve to have happiness even though after I make a decision of breaking someone's heart, I need to stop feeling guilty for moving on and leave someone behind.