Haters

Haters

There are basically going to have haters in every point of your life, people will judge on what you do and what you think.

The thing is how much you care about haters that might influence the thing you actually want to do, but second doubt yourself after haters judge you?  

If doing things that you want will have haters, and you don’t stick to what you want to do, it just proves that this is not what you really want to do.

The question is “Why you known them as haters, yet you are still influenced by them?”

The truth is you can’t please everyone in all the things you do, and if you must please someone, it must be your parents or someone that really matters to you, and worth for you to compromise.  I have learned to evaluate and prioritize in things that I do, and everyone must agree not everything you do. Therefore, always think before you do something.

Besides that, the only thing you should do is keeping things personal, you have no reason to always make things so public and giving people the chance to judge and comment.

"Family supports, a real friend don't judge." Don't question yourself for what you think it makes you happy. 

Persuasion

Persuasion is what I learned today. 

I was trying to persuade my parents since last week for allowing me to move out during May when my University is shifting to Sungai Long. 

Anyway how , before I talk to my parents about me shifting out, I asked for my sister opinion and also hoping that they will be supporting my ideas and stand by my side. So both of my sister agreed to support my idea about me moving out. 

So there is these few ways my sisters teach me to persuade my parents. 

1. Never push too hard - I must know how to control my persuasion, always remember not to be so aggressive, because it may caused to direct rejection from them. Especially when my parents hate to be in the forcing situation. 

2. Provide them a win-win situation -  If I want to shift out, I need to tell my parents what are the benefits they get, for example I will cause them less trouble by sending or fetching me to class and also I will able to save the petrol and toll money if I drive. Therefore, the better way is to shift nearby to my University. 

3. Be confidence - My sister told me is important that when I speak to them, I must sound confidence and firm with what I want, so that they will be sure I am confidence with my choice, and then they will be confidence in me. 

So by using all thee method of persuasion, I considered this persuasion successful because they didn't reject me immediately, however they said they will be considering my suggestion wisely. 

I was thinking the other side that even now persuading my parents need to have a plan and ways, when in the future, I need to persuade is customers and my boss, will be able to even do it? And it feels like i am having my practise now already, preparing myself for future, training to be a good persuader.